My Dearest Jacob Alan Decker, R.I.P.

Jake & Hattie Decker

This is a real estate blog, and as such we cover not just the homes we love and live in, but the people who we love in them. Jacob Decker is one of those people. He is my son-in law, he helped people save or sell their homes through his bankruptcy practice. Jake is gone, and my heart is broken forever. Though we grieve, our home is filled with love, food, and flowers from family, friends, even strangers. In my deepest grief I see this is why we love and cherish our homes so much. Not only are they our havens, but they are our comfort when we cry, where we go when we are in pain, and need to rest and replenish. Memories are made here, happy and not so.  I believe my dearest Jake is finally now at home, and at peace.

Jacob Alan Decker (“Jake”) passed March 1, 2015 in Dallas. Jake was born March 9, 1981 in Independence, Kansas, son of Larry Clay and Lindy Lou Decker. The proud Texan lived across his beloved state in Houston, Midland, and after high school years in Alaska, made his final home in Dallas. He graduated from Texas A&M University in 2004. Jacob was active in baseball, football and golf. He played in the Houston Shell Open and held a PGA card. He obtained his JD from Oklahoma City University School of Law in 2007. In Dallas, Jake focused on the practice of bankruptcy at Allmand Law Firm, where he was a junior partner and helped thousands of clients. He was also active and supportive with his wife in Dallas philanthropy including the SPCA of Texas, Paws Cause, Dallas Pets Alive, and Cattle Barons Ball. Jake loved animals dearly and always opened his home to animals in need.

Jake is survived by a circle of loving family: his beloved wife, Cassie Evans Decker of Dallas; his 3 month old daughter, Hattie Pearl Decker; his brother Matt Decker of Oklahoma City, OK; his parents Larry and Lindy Decker of Edmond, OK; his cousin Jeremy Decker of Waco, TX; his in-laws Candace and Walter Evans of Dallas and brother-in-law and sister-in-law Tres and Erika Evans of Redwood City, CA and their daughter, Palmer Barrett Evans.; his maternal grandparents James Terrell Brumble, Jr. and Doris Mae Bonds Brumble of Tyler, TX and his paternal grandparents Ira Jackie Decker and Margie Lee Derrick Decker of Hico, TX.

Jake’s family celebrates his beautiful, loving life on Thursday, March 5, at 4:00 p.m. at Preston Hollow Presbyterian Church, 9800 Preston Road. He will be interred in the family cemetery in Duffau, Texas near Hico, Texas, where he loved to hunt, fish, and enjoy the land.

In lieu of flowers, the family would appreciate Memorial Contributions to a special fund which has been established for his beloved infant daughter, Hattie Pearl Decker: send to Morgan Stanley (Attention: Tres Evans) at 2775 Sand Hill Road, Suite 120, Menlo Park CA 94025.

“My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart,
and my portion for ever.” -Psalm 73:26

34 Comment

  • I could not be more shocked or saddened by your loss. I am so terribly sorry for your loss for your family. Life is so fleeting.

  • i know how hard that was… how hard all of this is… but you wrote a beautiful tribute that jake would love. <3

  • My heart stopped when I read this post. There is no possible way I could ever imagine how you, Walter, Cassie , your family and Jake’s must be feeling. Words escape me. Please accept my most sincere condolences on your loss of Jacob.

  • I am so sorry to hear about Jake’s passing. My heart goes out to Cassie and your family. Sending many prayers your way.

  • Wonderful memorial, so sorry, Candace.

  • I am so very sorry to hear of your terrible loss, Candy. My love to you and Walter and your daughter. I pray for God’s comfort and the comfort of family and friends during this difficult time. Sending love to you all.
    Kendall

  • Candy, and Walter,
    We feel for your whole family for this tragic loss. With love and sincere sadness, Linda and Al.

  • Oh Candy,
    I am so very sorry. My heart and my prayers are with you and your family.

  • Candy, we are just so very sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and family during this unimaginable time.

  • Candy,
    My condolences to your family — a vibrant life cut short, yet such a footprint! I am very sorry for your loss. Life is so precious…

  • Candy – My heart aches for the loss and pain of a family member at such a young age. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your daughter and family.

  • Candy,

    Deepest condolences to you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

  • I am so sorry to hear of this tragic loss for your family. I literally had to read it twice to make sure it was Cassie’s husband and father of that beautiful new baby. May God bless you all.

  • Ugh… So sorry for your loss Candy. We need to appreciate the people in our lives while they are here. So sorry.

  • Our thoughts and prayers are with you – may you find strength and comfort in the days ahead.

    Tom, Bethany and John Erickson

  • Candy, I am SO sorry to hear about your loss. I literally had to read your post twice as I was so stunned. I hope your daughter and granddaughter will heal with time.

  • My condolences to you and your family, Candy. I can’t imagine how to deal with such a tragic loss. Your tribute was lovely. He sounds like we was an incredible man and father.

  • Candy,
    My heart and my soul ache for Cassie, precious Hattie Pearl, you and Walter, and all of Jake’s family and loved ones. This tribute to him and to his life was crushingly beautiful, poignant, and breath-taking, all at once. Though we do our best to give words of comfort, I feel all of mine are lacking. Therefore, I will simply say, you all are loved by multitudes and are embraced in a circle of supporting peace. Matthew 5:4 “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” Hugs and love to you all.

  • Oh no. I am so sorry to read this. I send all my sympathy and condolences. In your journey forward, please know that you will have a lot of people on which to lean. So lean on them.

  • I am so, so sorry for your loss. So glad that Cassie has such a loving supportive family around her – my thoughts and prayers go out to all of you.

  • Shocking tragic loss……we shall never understand. My condolences to you and your families.

  • Candy, Our hearts ache for you and your family. My prayers for your peace and comfort as you celebrate Jake’s life.

  • Candy, we are deeply saddened by the news of your loss. Our heartfelt condolences to Cassie, precious little Hattie Pearl, you and your family and all of Jake’s family. Although I know that no words can ease the loss you feel, just know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. Wishing you peace to bring comfort, courage to face the days ahead and loving memories to forever hold in your hearts. God Bless!

  • I felt the wind knocked out of me. Such joyous news with the new baby just weeks past. May he rest in peace and may all of you feel Gods mercy and love during this very sad time.

  • My heart goes out to you and your family. I’m so very saddened by this news and pray for peace for all of you…

  • Candy-
    I am so sorry for the loss your family has suffered of such a young man. I hope that Cassie is able to raise Hattie Pearl to know her Dad thru pictures and videos of him.
    I will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers at this most difficult time.
    Sincere Condolences, Jeff Dworkin

  • Sincerest condolences to you and your entire family. Words can never express the loss of one so young. Prayers to you.

  • My deepest sympathies, Candy. So sorry to hear this news.

  • I don’t believe I ever met Jake, but my grandfather, Louis Chaney and Jake’s great grandmother, Leona, were brother and sister. Louis owned the local Gulf Service Station, ran cattle, and was on the Hico City Council. Leona lived on a farm outside of town,. She raised livestock on her own for decades after her husband died, and she also made the most beautiful quilts. They both had generous and loving hearts, a trait that must have been passed down to Jake.

  • Many prayers for you, your family, Cassie and sweet Hattie! May God give you the much needed strength today and everyday! Xo

  • This is extremely sad to hear, Candy. I am very sorry for your loss and will be praying for your family (in particular, your daughter and granddaughter).

  • My heart is breaking for your family. Words simply can not express my sorrow over this tragic loss of your son-in-law. I will be praying for your for your whole family.

  • My sisters can see him and he is with us