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By Nancy Peham
Special Contributor

Nothing is guaranteed in life except death and taxes, and when we leave this world someone has to deal with — and sort — the physical things we leave behind.

While my mother was alive, she shared her worries that when she died her children would be torn apart by the process of dividing her belongings.  

I have been very fortunate to be one of four daughters who grew up in a close-knit family.  I know that’s not always the case among siblings, which can make the process of liquidating a parent’s belongings result in hurt feelings, claims of unfairness, and the rekindling of sibling rivalries.  In my family, just knowing that my mother feared a fracturing of relationships made us all work harder to come out on the other side of the process remaining close. (more…)

downsizeBy Nancy Peham
Special Contributor

We all reach a point in life where it makes sense to downsize. The first step is to realize, accept, and decide that the time has come to move forward with the process.

As adult children, we can support our parents’ decision in several ways.  We can provide emotional support, share information and resources, and when possible work alongside a parent to go through their home giving physical assistance. When that’s not feasible a third party can be brought in to help.

Your parent may be dealing with a home that has been lived in for 40 years or an apartment that has already been through the first round of downsizing.  There may have been a recent illness, loss of a spouse, or physical constraints that complicate the process, or your parents may be in great health.

So, Where Do You Start?

Whether a move will take place soon or your parents’ goal is just to simplify their lives, the steps are the same.  In the case of an imminent move, the stress level may be higher, but the most important thing is to begin the process as soon as you know the change is coming.    (more…)

Marie Kondo

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Editor’s Note: We are pleased to announce that Nancy Peham, a certified Certified Professional Organizer® with more than 15 years of experience under her belt has joined us as a contributor and columnist. For her first installment, we tasked her with helping us address all that stuff that didn’t bring us joy when we got our Kon Mari on.

By Nancy Peham
Special Contributor

Have you heard of Marie Kondo, the current rage in organizing gurus?  If not you’re probably living under a rock! The petite Japanese queen of “tidying up” has been the talk of the media recently due to her current Netflix mini-series.

She’s the author of “The Life-Changing Method of Tidying Up,” and “Spark Joy.”

In a nutshell, her philosophy states that if your possessions don’t spark joy in your life then you should get rid of them.

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Among other things, Marie Kondo advocates thanking each item as you let it go.  I agree that we should all be grateful for everything we have, especially since there are so many people less fortunate right here in Dallas.  The Kon Mari method may not be for everyone, but if you’re ready to part with piles of clothing, household items, or furniture, then check out the information below.  

Here’s a list of some lesser-known, Dallas-area charities that would love to take your gently used items and help those in need.  Each one has a special mission and purpose, so choose the one that speaks to you and “spark joy” in those less fortunate. (more…)

Come learn, see examples, and sip some holiday treats from 2-4 p.m. Wednesday, Dec. 12 for an informative panel discussion on right-sizing your home.

We don’t just want to show you 31 Abbey Creek Way in North Dallas, Hawkins-Welwood Homes’ brand new, easy-living model at the beautiful Lawns of Glen Abbey. We want to show you how to right-size — how to build a home with everything you want and need on a tighter footprint— at a CandysDirt exclusive expert panel discussion from 2-4 p.m. Wednesday, Dec. 12.

You can get your tickets here.

We have put our heads together to assemble a panel of right-sizing (or, if you prefer the old-fashioned word, downsizing) experts including builder John Hawkins of Hawkins-Welwood Homes, Allan Ross of WaaL.Architecture, and certified professional organizer Nancy Peham.


Here’s more on the panel: (more…)